7 Steps How to Create the Life You Desire
I wanted to share with you something that might be life changing for you, as it was for me 16 years ago.
As I am getting closer to the day when I step into a new phase in my life, fully devoting myself to my calling and passion to help others overcome and achieve the lives they’re longing to live, this week I wanted to share with you something that might be life changing for you, as it was for me 16 years ago. And then, I have a gift for you – my model “7 Steps Forward”, a roadmap for changing your current circumstances and creating the life you desire.
Time after time I hear people saying “Well, that’s just how my life is.” Their sad eyes reflect their belief that circumstances are stronger than they are and that there is nothing much they could do about it. And, they settle for the life they have even though they are miserable. I still remember the time when I felt trapped by circumstances. I was so deeply depressed that I wished I didn’t even exist. But there was a day when I grasped one thing and that was a turning point in my life. Since then, I began intentionally to take action to change my circumstances, and my story evolved in an amazing way. My life transformed.
If you are not happy how your life goes and you also feel trapped in your current circumstances, this message is for you today.
When I decided to start changing my life, I was in a dark and desperate place. At the age of 22, overnight my life has brutally changed. More about what had happened, you can read in my earlier written “Stay committed to your decision and never, never give up”
At the time, losing nearly half of my body meant losing my life. At the time Vilnius city was not accessible for people in wheelchairs, and that meant that I no longer could leave my home, go to the city or anywhere. I became literally imprisoned by the walls of my own home. My life turned into a dull and painful existence. The scariest thing was knowing that we couldn’t do anything to change the situation. Losing legs was not like getting a cut on your finger. It was a horrifying agonizing experience of the sudden change. Without me even realizing it, I stepped on a quicksand of deep depression. But, praise the Lord, there was a day when the despair was replaced by hope and a new vision.
I will never forget that beautiful sunny day when I realized that if I did not like how my life was – I could change it. Nothing – no accident, pain, challenges due to my changed physical condition, nor any other problems were going to rule how I felt and how I would continue my life journey.
Those desperate circumstances were created by the event – the car accident. So, if the circumstances and my life’s conditions could be changed by certain events, then by taking the initiative and action I could create a different kind of events and change my circumstances again! I didn’t have to give in and settle for what was created by the crash!
That moment something deep inside of me has shifted. Instead of continuing to live in despair and depression that my life was restricted by circumstances that the crash has created, I realized that there was no limit to what I want to create in my life – by taking an intentional action I could deliberately create circumstances that I desired. And, I believed with God’s help I was going to get out of this horrible place in my life.
I felt strong and determined to change my living conditions. I decided not to waste my time and not to allow the unknown to make me doubt, but take the initiative and start making changes to get myself out of the “dead-end”.
I asked myself what needs to happen, how my life needs to be for me to feel happy again. Then, I asked myself solution-oriented questions, determined my long term and short term goals, and strategized what exactly I needed to do to start the process.
First, I set the goals that helped me gain my independence back on a daily routine, along with the ability to walk wearing artificial legs. Local prosthetic specialists tried to ensure me that in my physical condition of bilateral above the knee amputee and having one arm paralyzed it was impossible to walk wearing prosthetic legs. At that time I knew that the only way to change circumstances that made me depressed was to walk again so I would be able to get out my home and go to work again. I was ready to break through any obstacles to make it happen. So I told specialists that I would walk and would even dance, and they would see it.
In spite of much advice – to come to terms with a “disabled lifestyle” – I researched online about prosthetic legs worldwide, emailing prosthetic companies. My relentless perseverance to walk again brought me all the way to California, USA. Thanks to an American prosthetic specialist, who believed that my dream was possible and decided to help me, I fulfilled my vow. I walked and even danced, just as I said I would.
Then, a year later I moved across the globe from my family in Lithuania, EU and established my life in the United States even though at the time of my decision I had no place to live, no work, not a lot of money, and even no right to live and work in America. I always held my vision in my mind no matter what was going on in my life, and consistently worked toward my goals. A beautiful dream, which seemed impossible at the time, has become my reality.
Last night, as I was having my time of gratitude to the Lord, in my mind I stepped back and looked at my life from a bigger perspective. Just remembering where I began my journey and where my life is now, I was in awe. How incredibly my life has transformed! How great my God is!
I still remember very well those days when a full dynamic life having my physical limitations seemed impossible. I was told many times that I was aiming for goals that were simply unrealistic. It did seem like outrageous ambitions and yet, I believed there would come a day when I’d implement my dreams. And, it’s been over a decade now that I live my dream.
The outrageous ambition is my life today – I live a dynamic life residing in beautiful California, across the globe from my home country, am self-sufficient, work, build relationships with people, travel even more than I ever did prior the crash. Furthermore, I just fulfilled another impossible goal – published my book “Unstoppable. It’s a Choice”. And now, my eyes are set on another vision – creating my business Becoming Unstoppable, LLC to fulfill my promise to the Lord and help other people break through their hardships and create the lives they’re longing to live. It’s mind-boggling!
Please hear me – you can change your current circumstances if you are not happy with them. Current circumstances were created by your own choices made earlier. The same way, by making different choices and taking action, you can create different circumstances. Maybe you are dealing with some events you could not control. But remember, your life is in your hands, not in the hands of your circumstances. Your choice of what you are going to do about them from now on will determine your future events, and maybe even your destiny. Do not allow them to be in charge. It’s up to you to take charge of your circumstances and your life.
You are the author of your life story. You can pick up a pen and change your next Chapter. You can change it at any time. Even today. Even this moment can be fateful for you if you make the decision to open a new page and start writing in it what you want.
This is your life, your story, and nobody is going to create it for you, except you.
If you ask yourself “OK, but how can I possibly change my life? Where do I begin?”
I want to share with you the model that I personally used to transform my life, so you can begin your journey anytime, even today. On the right side of this blog page find and get “7 Steps Forward” How to Create the Life you Desire, which will be your roadmap.
If at any point you would like me to personally coach you, please don’t hesitate to contact me.
And, if you would like more practical tools that could guide you in your journey, I encourage you to read my book “Unstoppable. It’s a Choice” There I included all practical tools how to be strong, how to overcome, break through and achieve.
I hope this will give you a sparkle of hope and challenge your beliefs and expand your vision of what’s possible in your life. Remember, you can begin making changes even today. I will continue sharing messages to inspire and equip you with practical tools.
Meanwhile, be strong. Believe that with God all things are possible. Only you need to take initiative.
What will be your first step?